Hello beautiful ladies, I’m TerryAnn Porter. Welcome to Mindset Monday.
Today’s word is ASK.
I want to start with a moment from my years of raising kids. If you’ve ever been around children, you know this scene:
A child stands in front of you… shifting their weight, sighing dramatically, maybe even giving you those big eyes. You can feel they want something. But instead of asking, they hover. They hope. They wait for you to magically know.
And what do we say?
“Use your words. If you want something, you have to ask.”
We teach children to ask because asking is how they learn trust. It’s how they learn relationship. It’s how they learn that their needs matter.
But somewhere along the way… many of us stopped doing the very thing we taught them.
We stopped asking.
We stopped asking God. And we stopped asking people.
We learned to be the strong one. The dependable one. The “I’ve got it handled” one.
We learned to carry things quietly because we didn’t want to be a burden. We learned to say “I’m fine” even when we weren’t. We learned to hint instead of ask, hoping someone would just notice.
But Jesus — the Son of God, who knew every heart — still asked people directly:
“What do you want Me to do for you?”
He asked the blind man. He asked the sick. He asked the desperate. He asked the ones who had been suffering for years.
Not because He didn’t know… but because asking is part of the healing.
Asking is the moment we step out of hiding. Asking is the moment we admit our need. Asking is the moment we trust the One who can actually help.
And here’s the part we often forget:
Sometimes God answers our prayers through the hands, voices, and support of other people.
Asking God is faith. Asking others is humility. Both are holy.
Think about it — how many times have you prayed for strength, but refused to ask someone to lighten your load? How many times have you prayed for clarity, but didn’t ask a friend to talk it through? How many times have you prayed for comfort, but didn’t reach out to the person who would gladly sit with you?
We tell children, “Use your words.” But somewhere along the way, we stopped using ours.
So let me ask you gently:
When did you stop asking?
Was it after someone disappointed you? Was it when you learned to be the caretaker? Was it when life taught you that needing help was inconvenient or embarrassing? Was it when you decided your needs weren’t as important as everyone else’s?
Jesus still whispers the same question today:
“Daughter, what do you want Me to do for you?”
Not “What should you need?” Not “What do you think is reasonable?” Not “What do you think I have time for?”
But What do you want?
Matthew 7:7 tells us plainly: “Ask, and it will be given to you.”
Not “Hint and hope.” Not “Struggle silently.” Not “Wait until you’re desperate.”
Ask.
Ask God. Ask others. Ask boldly. Ask honestly. Ask like your needs matter — because they do.
I want to encourage you to take five quiet minutes today and answer Jesus’ question:
“Lord, this is what I want You to do for me…”
Write it down. Speak it out loud. And then — ask one trusted person for something you need this week. A conversation. A favor. A moment of support. A prayer.
Asking opens the door.
And next week, we’ll talk about what happens after you ask — when God invites you to take a step, move forward, and participate in the very thing you prayed for.
That’s Week 2: SEEK.